Tommy Sotomayor Vs Black Women’s Hair


Tommy Sotomayor aka Mr. Controversy has made a huge name for himself not only within the black community, but on the YouTube and radio broadcast community as well. Though he is very popular, admitting to be a fan or even saying you feel he has valid points  can lead to a heated discussion.

Reason being he is extremely critical of black people, particularly black women, and has lent his opinion on numerous topics such as: light skin vs dark skin, biracial people, feminist ideology, weave, and violence within the black community. Yet his fan base continues to grow. Regardless of the accusations of being anti-black, anti-gay, “a coon”, self hater and color-struck, he still garners a largely black men and women audience.

The problem is, I feel Sotomayor’s intent is taken out of context. Sotomayor’s work is heavily satirical, and the perspective he lends is an outsiders perspective. He is essentially, presenting you with the view of a non-black person. He is telling you what those people think, but won’t say to your face.

When being critical of black women’s hair (he is strongly against the use of perms and weave, coining the term hair-hat), he is trying to evoke a thought process. While to some, its just hair, while to others, its a deep rooted problem that is kept quiet in the black community. I remember a particular video, where he gave a commentary (on two young white girls making fun of weave and saying that black women were jealous of them), and he made a valid point: you give them that power when you alter you appearance that looks more, European (yes, I am very aware that most weave is from Asia, not Europe). Yes, white women wear weave too. However, majority of white women do not. Outside of Hollywood, very few do. Furthermore, white women wear hair that replicates white hair texture, whereas, most hair extensions marketed to black women does not.

Black women, in order to further black empowerment should embrace their natural hair. Not for the men, not for white acceptance, but for themselves. Its not the weave that’s bad, its the notion that you need it. Its the mindset that, “black hair is ugly, bad, dirty, unprofessional, and unkempt.” Its the fact that a lot of  little black girls are not given the option of wearing their natural hair. These are the building blocks of raising confident women. This is the point that I feel Sotomayor is trying to make. That instead of embracing our own beauty we are conforming to what society tells us are beautiful black women, oppose to what us telling them what is beautiful about us.



  1. jonolan

    By and large, you’re NOT going to like me one bit and will likely ban me at some point if I further comment here because I won’t speak other than the truth as I see it and that will likely offend you. That being said, I agree with on this topic. I’ve even blogged about the general topic myself (ask for the link if you want it; I’m not shilling my blog on my 1st comment here ) – and ran into the “hair issue” when looking for images of models.

    NOTE: My wife is mostly Black – some Scots and more Apache – and she’s settled on long corn rows, with colored extensions woven in (currently bright red) because it’s more practical for her. It looks good, but so would her natural hair insofar as I’m concerned but she doesn’t want to have to do things to it when going to bed.

    • theblackminority

      Can I have a link? And no. As long as you’re respectful I won’t ban you. I don’t mind someone giving their perspective, even if its different from mine. That’s how you learn. 🙂

      I understand the practicality of a weave. Though I personally have never worn them, I do know why a lot of women prefer them. However there are health concerns as well, (ie forehead cancer (lace fronts) and nerve damage (perms/relaxers). Also, I have a problem with the mindset behind them as well, the women who wear them because they don’t like their natural hair, which unfortunately is a lot.

      And even with these it still wouldn’t be nearly as bad if the weave business was black operated. When you have the poorest group of people in America spending billions of dollars on a product, one would have to question why aren’t they capitalizing on this? Meanwhile Asians set up shop in black neighborhoods, banking on black women’s insecurities.

      • jonolan

        Here’s the link:

        Warning in advance: I’m not kind to race-baiters, grievance-mongers, or grifters like Obama who use “racism” to protect themselves and their agendas from dissent. Hence, most of my blog will likely offend you.

        As for any comment that is a variant of bemoaning that “Black money don’t bounce” and blaming other cultures for it – Blacks don’t tend to open businesses even though they have every material advantage and disadvantage that the other non-White cultures do that do open them. Look to who you chose as your own for the root of that problem.

        Of course, in the specific context of this post, the entire fashion, beauty, and weight-loss industries bank on the insecurities of women et al. Why do you think Blacks would be excluded from that?

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  3. longlori

    I’ve written a couple of pieces that tie in with what you’ve written. I’d like to know your thoughts please. I almost agree with the post, except the defending of Tommy Sotomayor. I watched a few of his videos and thought he was being satirical, but the more I watched, the more I realised that what he says is coming from an ugly place of hatred for black women

    • theblackminority

      “what he says is coming from an ugly place of hatred for black women”- This is a catch 22 for me because I see what you’re saying. And while I do disagree with some of what he says, I also agree with a lot as well. I think he does have a lot of resentment towards black women, and I also don’t like that one of the motives for natural hair is to validate yourself through men, but that’s another issue.

      I will check your post 🙂

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